let me share with you that as a man, this was one of the toughest experiences of my life. Us guys think that we can pretty
much handle just about anything...and
I guess I can admit...that I had no idea the impact
my wife's unfaithfullness would
have on my life.
was one of those men that believed that we had a forever plan. You know, a plan
future, raise our kids together, rent out our property and retire with a
coming in, and that our promise to each other of for better or for
worse would mean that
neither one of us had to ever worry about experiencing
that "cheating" thing that many
of our friends had happen to them.
Well, needless to say I was in for the shock of
my life. Discovering that my wife
was unfaithful broadsided me, and brought feelings of
anger, shame, humiliation,
disgust, distrust, inadequacy, fear, and most of all hurt.
I was at a loss as to why this happened...and took to temporarily blaming myself. I
told her that I would take her back...forgive her....but, she was not interested.
already seperated herself from me emotionally, and I was left with dealing
with the loss
of my wife, family, home, land, and my business workshop on our
property. Since we had
two children, it was thought best that "I" move out.
Geeze...what a mistake that was. The
struggles began and the ugliness of
seperation of "stuff" became an unwelcome battle.
One of the oddest things was how friends came out of the woodwork and began to
me the reasons they stayed away...that they didn't like her...that they didn't like
way she treated me or the kids...and "Gee Chris...it's a good thing you are out
Sure wish they had said something. That one I will never figure out. The
good news is....I
have been able to move forward in my life...I have met my true
soulmate, and am happier
than I ever imagined I could be. I am looking forward to
sharing with you how Angel and
I met, and how we have managed to build a
wonderful life together !!