If you are like us, we had
no idea the shock, pain and confusion of the realization that the person we love is unfaithful. Until it has happened to
you....it is almost impossible to grasp the reality of the impact this deception has on someone.
Does any of this sound familiar to you?
The violation of trust....the broken promises...the
broken dreams... can cause us to feel
overwhelmed, displaced, and at times...a loss of
what our future can hold. The fear of never being able to feel trust or "that kind" of love
again can cause us to draw within ourselves, shut down...and in some cases cause what feels
like depression. To say nothing of what it can do to one's self-esteem. Have you ever asked
yourself..."What did I do to cause them to want someone else?" or... "I'm not pretty/handsome
enough!" or... "I must not be a good lover" or..."It is my fault because .........?" --- You
fill in the blank for that untruth. The bottom line is....they cheated because that is who
"they" are. They made that choice to be unfaithful. To lie. To decieve. To be selfish and hurtful.
They are the ones who broke the promises and our hearts, and we have a right to all of the
feelings of hurt and dissappointment their actions have caused us.
We must remember
that because of their actions, we can feel displaced...no
longer knowing where we belong....or what our next steps should be. The anger, confusion, grief,
and pain can ultimately disable us from moving on with our lives. Ultimately, we move forward;
but, the transition to our new life can be filled with self sabotage and we can possibly shut
down to being open to being loved and trusting ever again. Let's be honest with ourselves....don't
we believe we deserve better than that? We were the victims...not the cause....and we have
a right to be loved.
The good news is....it is absolutely
possible to have a loving and fulfilling relationship that is even better than what you thought
you had. We are here to share with you from our own personal experiences,
how we not only survived the painful, life changing experience; but, the amazing process we discovered that has brought us to an even more loving and fulfilling
Take a moment to read Chris's perspective, and from Angel's perspective, on
how we made it through and what this can mean